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September 28, 2007

Ideas for Women's Ministry



Last month, I wrote an article about Why I Don't Do Women's Ministry. It sparked quite a conversation. Obviously, women have some strong feelings and opinions on how to do women's ministry - and about their experiences in women's ministry programs.

This conversation was so lively and challenging, I knew I had to write a follow-up post in the hope that it will generate some ideas for how we might make women's ministries more effective.

Mostly, I'd like to hear your ideas. But in order to get this conversation started, let me share a few of my own:

1. Recognize that women are not all the same. Those who are called to women's ministry have their work cut out for them. It's not an easy job to minister to such a diverse group of people. But anyone who wants to appeal to women in general must recognize that women come in many different shapes and must create programs that appeal to more than one type. This is the same for any demographic group in the church, but perhaps most of all for women. Our lifestyles, circumstances, and preferences are so diverse. Not everything has to appeal to every woman - but if NOTHING about a church's women's ministry program appeals to a particular woman, she'll quickly get the message that she's not OK and not wanted.

2. Respect women's intellectual abilities. Too often, we seem to buy into the world's lie that we are purely emotional beings, at the whim of fantasy and hormones, and not smart enough to go deep. God created us to feel and to think. Our souls hunger not only for the presence of God, but also for knowledge of his truth. Ministries that focus only on women's emotional needs or that stay on a shallow level are doing a disservice to their women and to the larger body of Christ. And they're failing to reach many women, who will never be engaged by a ministry that does not challenge their intellect.

3. Recognize that women are not just wives and mothers. Women aren't required to fill these roles in order to see God's purpose for their lives. I'm both a wife and a mother, but if I were neither, God's calling on my life would not go away. It's pointless to ignore the importance of these roles in the lives of many women, but we must acknowledge that women are unmarried, childless, divorced, single, struggling with infertility, focused on their careers, and everything in between. They're all important to God, and none of them should have the impression that God's plans don't include them.

4. Make it safe to talk about real life. In my experience, most topics are off the "approved" list at women's ministry gatherings. This is a systemic problem in many churches, so I don't think it's fair to blame it on women's ministries. But if a women's ministry program were able to make it safe to talk honestly and biblically about our experiences with spiritual doubt, depression, injustice, loneliness, temptation, abuse, regrets, sex, career success, insecurities, need to achieve, perfectionism, financial worries, sexual harassment, boredom, anxiety, exhaustion, great books, compulsive eating, addictions, and things that keep us awake at night, that ministry would produce some powerful life change.

5. Affirm real women. We should not walk out feeling worse about our potential in Christ than we did when we walked in. Many women feel torn down and devalued by the church - simply because they are women or they are the sort of women God has made them to be. And while some have commented that I seem to be whining about my own experiences, or feeling sorry for myself, I'm actually not too worried about myself. My commitment to Christ and to the church is intact and independent of what I experience in women's ministry. I am truly concerned about those women who have written off the church, and by association Christ, because of what they have heard the church telling them about their own worth. Any women's ministry program must everyday women feel like they belong.

6. Challenge women. Besides the nursery, women's ministry may be the only place where many of our ministries seem designed only to make us comfortable.

I realize these ideas aren't very specific. So here are a couple more specific thoughts:
? I belonged to one church that had a sports ministry for women.
? In a response to an earlier comment, someone mentioned a book club.
? How about get-togethers that don't require mothers to leave their children behind? Moms who work outside their homes aren't looking for more time away from their kids, so they might be more likely to attend events that welcome their children.
? How about helping women to form intentional mentoring relationships with each other? Many women are looking for mentors but don't know how to ask for one, get started, or keep it going.
? Hold a lunchtime Bible study for women who work outside their homes, in a location convenient to their work.
? Ask women to share their stories, or to teach each other about something they're passionate about.
? Get women together to do some powerful service in your community - and welcome families to participate as well.
? What if interested women ran a business together and used the proceeds to help other women get on their feet?

So how about your ideas? How can we do women's ministry differently to appeal to wider audience of women? What have you seen work well? What do you wish more churches would do in their ministries to women?

Comments

It is encouraging to see how God stirs hearts and minds of people who have never spoken, have different stories, yet the same burden. Last night I wrote about the "missing women" in the church on my personal blog. If anything, it encourages me to pray...for courageous women (and men) to step forward with determination and resolve to break down some barriers.

My heart is burdened for a particular age group of women...the 20s and early 30s group, who tend to get isolated because of the situations you accurately exposed. I think it's so important for the older group of women to empower and encourage younger women to step outside of 'normal' ministry roles as well as to participate in activities, dialogue and discussions that perhaps are 'non-traditional.'

So often in the church doing things the way they've always been done can be so prohibiting to unity, that it doesn't surprise me that effective 'outreach' (i.e., building relationships) is so stunted in particular areas...especially as it relates to women's ministry and women involved in ministry.

We have a lot of fun ideas circulating at our church where we have a strong contingent of newlyweds who are excited about just being together and inviting 'non-church' friends. But I think to me, the most important thing is to pray as God continues to stir hearts about this subject that women and men will be inspired to take courageous steps forward with grace and open ears. Thanks for continuing the dialogue!

Great article! And Kim's post was good too. I agree with much of what she has to say. My church's Women's Ministries is dead in the water. The pastor's wife "leads" it, but honestly, she is too lazy to want to ever plan anything because then she has to leave the house. I am serious and not intending to be mean spirited, it's just what it is. How do I go about making a change? Many women in church want to get together but get shot down when they want to plan something.We do 3 things a year, always the same...How can I rev things up a bit?

Amy,

I couldn't have said it better. Excellent post. I "ditto" everything you said.

Me, too! I am currently involved with my church's women's ministry, but only as a student, and in a limited capacity, as there is really great Bible Study to be had there. I have very intentionally chosen to lead "mixed" ministry groups, feeling strongly that men have a lot to speak into our lives, as we do into theirs!!

It is a LARGE church, so there's plenty of room to do both...

Wow, your first post about why you don't do women's ministry really resonated with me. I once was invited to a women's ministry event that wanted attendees to come dressed in white for "tea and lawn games." (I assume the lawn games were not something fun like rugby.) I have never felt like I fit in with women's ministries, either, and for a long time wondered what was wrong with me. To top it off, my husband is a pastor so my participation in women's ministry was expected (when I wasn't leading the children's ministry or making casseroles, of course.)

It has taken me a long time to feel comfortable in my own skin and realize that I am no less "womanly" or Christian because I prefer basketball, classic rock, and blue jeans to crafting, Christian radio, and matching pantsuits. Thank you for the encouragement to keep being myself!

All great ideas! and valid issues when it comes to finding a place to fit in as a leader.

Although i don't encourage "rebellion" or want you to think that you should be "secretive" but, why don't you just start something? I have in the past begun a Starbuck's ministry and plan to pursue a bible study at Starbuck's again for women. I invite women from all areas - church, work, social acquaintances, etc. that way, there is something happening that is a discipleship and growth experience, while not necessarily "under" the church ministry guise. The churches that i have been involved in have had no problem alerting women of it's availability or even including it in the women's ministry information that is distributed.

Many times it results in unchurched women connecting to a church home and women moving on into other types of studies, such as Sunday School, etc.

Wow, it is such a comfort to hear other women expressing what I have carried on my heart for so long. I am a 35 year-old career women, wife, mother of 2 girls (19 mnth, 3.5 yrs). I have pretty much stopped attending my church (except on Sundays of a long weekend) since about April this year.
I used to be so exhausted on Sundays and the start of my work week.
I am probably the only woman of my category at church and have felt isolated and disappointed with my church because vey few seem to understand or even try to sympathize with what I am living. The keep inviting me to weeknight prayer meetings and tell me how important it is for me to be there Sunday (our service runs from 4:30 p.m. to sometimes 9:30-10:00 p.m. at night.)
My heart has been crying out for churches to being to respond to the needs of people like myself. Imagine, I am a christian and am finding this hard. What are we to say for those in the world who we are trying to reach and encourage to accept Christ?
How can we encourage the "heads" of our churches to embrace these changes? All the ideas are great. But, what can we do we start the wind of change moving so that these ideas (effectively this service) can come into being?

Denise,
Montreal, Canada


Amy, our church has begun a Bible study for young mother's. They meet once a month on an evening of their choice and together they go through a Bible study. They are free to bring their little ones or not and their time usually involves a snack or a treat.

It is a good time to fellowship and also to study and meditate on God's Word together.

We also have other women's prayer groups and a few other outside activities for women of all different walks and callings.

I loved this article and all the comments that are posted so far. I have also found it difficult to find my place in Women's Ministry at churches I've attended in the past. One day I had an idea to ask a group of new moms & thier kids to my house and enjoy each other's company. I felt such a need to connect with other women. I encourage you to step out when you have an idea or see a need in your community. You never know what God will do with the little you think you can give. I really love my group of ladies that still meet two years later, we "do life" together! I took the idea of connecting with other moms even further and started a monthly newsletter. A couple of good friends joined me in the effort and we now have a wonderful ministry called Mom's Moments - www.momsmoments.ca! And so I am constantly reminded that women NEED to connect, and in order to do this we must feel comfortable with each other and get to know one another. Ideas catch on - my church fully embraces all my initiatives - women are so different, and it's important to have either a variety of options for connecting, or forums that would allow for just about anyone, any age or background, to feel like they're part of the group. It's also important to remember that usually we're trying to meet each other's needs, even if we fall short, our intentions are usually good. So keep trying!

In my late 40s I found myself in the role of pastor's wife after my husband made this radical change in his life. Angie's response to your column really spoke to me because I have a heart for the nourishment of women within the church, but it has nothing to do with being the wife of a pastor. I've had it for years. My less-than-traditional, very human take on being a pastor's wife has been accepted by our rural church, but getting women to step outside of how things have always been done is so tough and probably won't be overcome in our time here. Many, many things come ahead of finding time for themselves. I will continue to nudge and niggle, while seeking more ideas - like some shared here - to help me find more ways to make inroads on revitalizing women's ministry. I'm sure my preference for rock 'n roll, politics and world affairs, professional achievement and baseball will continue to mystify them, but perhaps this alone will expand their thinking about how things have to be. They are wonderful women who have taught me about the beauty and the blessing of the small and more ordinary things of life. Thanks for a thought-provoking article.

You asked for ideas. Sharing our stories is a great way of learning/connecting and can give each other hope. So we want to provide a place for women to share their story. Each month, we select a different woman (range of age/circumstance/etc) to share her story.

We've done story-telling and refreshments for a few years, now this year we've revamped it by surrounding the story with art and music. Also, new this year, is the plans for ongoing conversations to happen ... if any women are interested in connecting more concerning the topic(s) brought to the surface by the story, we'll provide any support they need to continue meeting together.
This revamped event is called iHope.

iHope is …
one woman telling her story
in a setting of creative beauty
with ongoing connections with other
women that are walking on a similar path.

You wrote a great article. But, I'd like to challenge you to take the next step. Why not explore the issues that men have as the Pastor's husband. I find myself in that situation within a church where the women have a thriving Woman's ministry with no Men's ministry in sight. As the spouse of the assistant Pastor with the Senior Pastor, also a woman but unmarried, there seems to be a lack of spirit to create the men's ministry.

I have been in this church for only as long as I have been married - 19 monthes - and I already detect the lack of spirit on the part of the men in the church to come together.

I'm sure that there are other men in the same situation, although in a very small minority.

The Women's ministry at my church in FW, Texas is growing and progressing to reach a wide variety of women: working women, single moms and married moms. The Bible studies created are never specific to someone's lifestage, but created to grow us in Christ as human beings. The ministry, by my persistence, is beginning to realize that reaching out to the vast growing population of single women is extremely important. I do agree that women's ministry is very difficult, but one the church cannot live without.

Great article!
I have spent years wondering why God made me a woman when my personality type is more male (ENTJ). In the church I didn't fit- I was passionate for God and a naturel leader and teacher. And somehow it would have been easier to fulfil my calling if I was male.
I'm not into woman's ministry- just ministry- and in New Zealand its not such a big thing. Many churches wouldn't have a woman's ministry- maybe a daytime bible study.
I finally went (with husband and 4 children) to Bible College and am now being ordained and heading into Doctoral studies in the Gospel of Luke. Woman/mothers/wives are so capable- they handle many tasks, do six things at once, notice the lonely, cook for the neighbour, teach, lead, bless, empower- and its good to see women being released to serve into whatever God has called them to.
For me, it has changed as I matured, as our marriage grew stronger, as I connected with God more, as I studied, and as our children grew.
It's good to see women thinking ministry to where-ever and who-ever- and not being restricted to women only. Jesus' call is so much bigger than that!

i have been in full time ministry now for going on twenty six years and have always done something for the women, but as a pastors wife not really enjoying it. when we took over a church four years ago in england the womens ministry was in bad shape. and i closed it down for a while waiting on God to show me how to get it going. well to cut a long story short, i took it outside the church having meetings with dinner evenings, lunches etc in hotels, or resturants,then having yearly ladies camps at a lovely venue, and it has grown and remained excited like you couldnt believe. hope this helps someone.

In response to your question,Amy,I can say
as a single mother who is connected to my church because we do have a conscientious women's ministry, I'm here to say that I think it is at the brink of working,our Leader and her ministry team(I feel try to cater to the needs of a pretty large group of Women)we usually have various set events through out the year, but women get ministry licensed,and appointed to do different things. But what I would like to focus on is one event in particular our State Women's Convention, I think it helps draw women together under one theme,and it offers various workshops to meet the needs of the women, we also have a Mentoring Ministry as well where the Older Seasoned Godly Women care about the younger women. It's just neat to be together,and we have a Leader who is concerned about the women. These meetings are usually pretty full and the Leader seems to want to help encourage involvement as(I think she feels directed)She's nice and that group helps me feel like a part,without it I really wouldn't be a part or feel like a part much at all.

i have been in full time ministry now for going on twenty six years and have always done something for the women, but as a pastors wife not really enjoying it. when we took over a church four years ago in england the womens ministry was in bad shape. and i closed it down for a while waiting on God to show me how to get it going. well to cut a long story short, i took it outside the church having meetings with dinner evenings, lunches etc in hotels, or resturants,then having yearly ladies camps at a lovely venue, and it has grown and remained excited like you couldnt believe. hope this helps someone.

Mentoring has been on my heart for a while. How would you suggest getting started?

Great two articles. As a woman, I work in full time ministry and I know how difficult it is to get women of all stages of life and passions together for "women's ministry". We are all so different. Some like fashion, some cooking, some crafts, some sports, etc...
I know I have always felt left out because I don't fall into any of those categories. I've often had to endure women's times of chocolate, fashion, "chic flicks" and none of those are me. And I hear you about having Bible study during the day (as if all women work at home). Or going to functions where all that is talked about is family and children. (All those things are good but if it would at least be acknowledged that not all women are at that stage of life, that would be good. And find out how the single women are doing; how are the marrieds without children doing?) Great idea to have the older women seeking out younger ones to mentor!
As women we need people reaching out to all women, no matter where they are at and hosting events that do a variety of things together.

Hi Ladies :)

In response to Suzanne's comment about having a Ladies Ministry Leader that really isn't ministring. Maybe you could talk to her and see if she is willing to have you help her come up with some ideas for activities to do. How would she feel if you planned some activities on your own? Maybe she has too much on her plate and doesn't want to do it alone. I took over the Ladies Minstry after the lady that was doing it moved. I've been doing Ladies Minsitry for about 6 years. It takes awhile to build the ministry. Alot of ladies stand by and watch which makes it difficult for a ministry to grow. Ladies love that personal invite to functions. I would start out with simple things like meeting for lunch and a movie. Activities that you can open to unchurch ladies so people can bring their friends. I try to plan things with different venues to seek out all ladies as much as possible. I will have to admit I have never thought about a sports activity. Like that has been listed in some of the other comments. I will have to look at that. I know have a activity for the ladies once a month. We do a annual Mother's Luncheon, Valentine Dinner for couples and I try to have free childcare offered too. It makes it easier for those that have children to attend events. I would love to hear from other leaders for some ideas about doing a retreat. I'm looking for a guest speaker probably in the Spring. I live in Glendale AZ please feel free to email me blglg@aol.com. I hope this helps some of you ladies. Thank you Barb

Loved both of your articles Amy!! And so appreciate the posts from everyone else...I lead a women's ministy but never in a million years expected to...because I had seen plenty of ministries that had isolated me and many others - basically communicating that you are not a woman until you are a wife and mother that looks, thinks, dresses, and acts a certain way. One huge shift for us has actually been changing our name - "women's ministry" carries a lot of baggage and misperceptions with it...so we changed it to "we: a movement of women" - and then started working hard to communicate that it's about all of us together - not a program, or stage of life, not women in or outside the church - but all women, engaging, encouraging, equipping and empowering each other to become who God created us to be through Jesus...it's amazing how changing terminology and showing diversity have made a significant difference. www.amovementofwomen.org

I see ministry for women in the church as a unique "equipping and nurturing" place for the spiritual growth of any age woman. Women can support and encourage by identifying the gifts they observe in others and providing them a venue to use them in various ways. With that in mind, serious and personal bible study needs to be central, with opportunity for personal one or one relationships to develop. I like the thought in the previous post of renaming to something that fits our 21st century mindset, utilizing all the tools avaiable now with technology.

Amy, you made some very good suggestions. I am a wife and mother, God impressed on me during our recent Women's Conference, that talked about Virture and the Virtuous Woman how most every speaker focused on being a wife and mother, they added the others in very lightly. God had me to minister to those women who were not mothers, not wives. We all are "Women of Worth" and God designed us to be so unique in many different ways. With that said it will be very impossible to include the likes of each woman, but it's not hard because our common denominator is God. The demographics of the Church really dictates what you should be doing. It's not going to be a one size fit all. But as long as God takes center stage, everyone will be drawn in. One thing that can be done though is a survey. Mentorship is something desperately needed, I know for myself I scruggle to find that person who will take the time to pour into me wisdom they have learned through the years in ministry and in life. I just pray that God will continue to minister to me that I may be the person I want in my life.

I am currently trying to start a Women's Ministry at my church and I am not really having a lot of success. I am having a get to know you lunch this Saturday and I am not really getting a lot of responces. Do you have any ideas. Should I just start with the little group and see if it grows or is this a lost cause. My goal is to bring the women in my church closer. It is not that big of a church and there are so many women that do not know each other.

Great conversations. I'm a late bloomer (63) My husband seems to think that I have a heart for women, and I'm beginning to think that's where my calling is. We are about to move states and have attended our new church a couple of times. They told us they had been praying for older people to join the church to provide a source of comfort and wisdom to the many younger members. I also believe I have a gift of vision - but I'm not really confident in this although it has proved correct so far. Can someone please advise me what I should do to clarify my God given purpose in life?

Marlene, Australia

Shawna-----Do NOT Give UP!!! mine started off the same way... but you must put complete fun and excitement into it. And it shows with you!!! if you are not excited about it then they won't come... God Bless You for taking the time to do this in your church. Listen i do crafts, we worship 3 songs we pray and EATTT now i have pretty much taken care of the food, but now i have so many ladies coming they help and bring things to or ask what they can bring. now we have ours the last saturday of every month, we are going to have a tea party, but its not one of those fancy ones just a girl fun party, we are having a best hat contest, plus what ever women doesn't come our craft is a candy bar wrapped with paper to give on sunday to invite other women to the next meeting.. just use your mind and heart, and anounce it pass out flyers every week until u start building... i hope this helps and good luckkkkkk i have different age groups in mine from 25 to 81 and its a big success, my only problem is i need more people to join the church but we are building, but for our size i have 20 women... GOD BLESS YOU ALL!! LOVE THE ARTICLE

I was lead my God to start a women's ministry at the church that I attend. There was no women's ministry there when I joined. I wrote a proposal and it was accepted. The women thought they needed to do it their way. The elected officers and now it is a power struggle. The president, who is not a minister wants to vote on everything and run everything. There has been no activity since she got into office. She is running around the church trying to stop women from doing anything that I suggest or placed in the proposal. When things are not of God they perish. I have so many plans for the women's ministry that have came from God. My heart is truly troubled. I pray constantly that she will see the vision and move forward. Women's ministry is just that a ministry and not an auxillary. We are not trying to enlist club members. We are trying to win souls. Waiting for large numbers is defeating the cause. God is not interested in quantity he is interested in quality. Loved your article it was on point. It's not a popularity contest. It's a quest to do the will of God.

I could not agree more with the article and the first post by Kim. It is great to know that I'm not the only one strugling with the Women's Ministries at her church. I am in a wonderful, growing group of young marrieds, we have a great time together. Recently I was talking with several of my friends from that group, and what I heard them say echoed what my heart has been crying out for. We as young women in the church feel forgotten, and left to fend for ourselves. I have been trying to communicate this to the WM board at my church for some time, but they are all older women and seem to have no intrest in pulling the younger women in. It is absolutely killing me that they are taking that attitude when all the young women want is a chance to sit and talk with them. We want to learn and be mentored by women who have more life experience. It was a revelation to me that my friends all felt the same way I did, I think we are going to try to talk to them as a group instead of just me, but I am so frustrated with the WM board and I'm worried that they still won't hear our hearts and we will be out in the cold.

Amy, great idea I love it. I am the women's director for my local church and I love and I know that I am called by God for this task. Our women's ministry is growing and is expedning and reaching other women in our local community. I am going to try some of your suggestions. Amy, how do I go about getting more training for women?

Just finished reading the comments made and I can relate being a pastor's wife myself and always looking for new ideas to enhance our women's ministry. I've got a meeting tonight and I still don't know what we are going to do for the year. Help! Please pray for me. I know that God is faithful and I'm just going to have to trust him in this new year.

Hello
Your comments are true. I do a women ministry at my church. Yes, I need much help. I know this is what the Lord has for me to do. But yes it is hard. Women that don't attend encourage others not to come. I need some new ideas. I want something tomeet the needs of everyone. Each month I try to involve new people.
Concerned Dianne

Thank you so much for #3. I've been church shopping for over a year since a move to a new town and have found that most women's groups and ministries seem like nothing more than "Camp Motherhood". Not all of us are blessed with children and a Christian husband. Some of us are middle-aged, childless, and single, with the accompanying pain and feelings of inadequacy that go along with these things.

I also have an interest in a Women's Christian group to share experiences and ideas that will encourage women of all types and ages especially the unsaved.

I need some advice or assistance in starting such a group.

Can you help direct me in getting started with the adventure

Thanks

I am 44 and for 3 years I knew God was calling me to start a women's ministry for the 30-50 age bracket. Once I was willing to "get out of the boat" I looked for God's response and I found it in Matthew 14:29 and He said "COME." I just began with the vision I had for it. I was very frightened of failure so I prayed over the first event constantly! I now realize success is not what I thought of it, success is doing what what God put before me. It was a big success! If I allow God to lead me He will do great things...and He will do great things thru you too! Just follow the leading of the Holy Spirit! Many blessings to all of you who desire to be a blessing to other women!

I am one of the coordinators in the Women's Ministry in our Church. So far, our ladies are saying that they are being blessed by the event. It's really hard work to plan an event. We have them in our mind as we plan. We make sure that they will be benefited and their needs are met. We want them to know and realized that we care about them. Thus, proving life in the company of your family in Christ makes a difference.

Thanks for the wonderful article. I am a new leader of Women's Ministry in our church of one hundred. Currently, I have started a eight week section on becoming closer to God using The Praying Woman and Women After God's Own Heart. I also have used information from my courses at EWomen to help lead the group. I'm looking for ideas for a "Girl's Night Out" as I'm wanting to do something fun once a month during the summer. Any ideas?

I am a christian lady aged 42 from Harare Zimbabwe. I discovered your page whilst doing a search on woman's ministries. I would like to learn woman's ministries. My intention would be that the meetings be rotationally run from the homes of various ladies we have at church. We have no experience in woman's ministries and would kindly seek your advice on relevant topics and interesting ideas to make our meetings a success.


The main assignment for the church while the Lord tarries is simply, to go and preach the gospel to every creature.... Women are half of the human race, an enormous number. Let's focus on looking for the 'unchurched' and bringing them in. God is calling us to 'build an army of His daughters to take part in the endtime harvest of souls' Let's teach, train, inspire and motivate women to keep up the search for the unchurched. It is urgent. Let's employ every means at our disposal, events, tea parties, whatever....

I need ideas and partners, networks, etc to establish a women's school of ministry. I pastor a young church in a surburb of Lagos in Nigeria. We run a mentoring program for girls and young women. Keep the conversation going, God Bless u all, Uche

After attending a conference of E-Women in April,I was led to start a miinistry for young christian women in my home. It has been amazing how God has used it to inspire these women. I have seen great things happening in their lives. We meet once a month and it is a time of food, fun, and fellowship. I have seen how important it is for these women to share their faith and their concerns with one another. It was disigned by God and He is in full control. They were so hungry for this type of ministry that they just hate to leave. I set the time from 6:00 to 9:00 PM but they are so excited about it, they usually stay longer. There is really no set program, just what the Lord lays on my heart each month. He never lets me down. I am always listening for His voice and am open for any suggestions on new things. I know that God does not want this to be one of those ministrys that becomes mundane, but rather something new and exciting each month. If any of you have any ideas I would love to hear from you and then see if it is something God wants. This is my first time at this blog and I am excited about sharing with all of you.

All these comments are interesting however I lead an older womens group and they no longer want to do anything. They want someone else to do it yet they will come for something that is fun and interesting. Tell me, what sort of things do you do at your meetings?

Amy God bless you,for you spoke my mind.I have a passion for women ministry, iam a pastor's wife here in aba Nigeria.I have been co-ordinating our women fellowship but recently i had passion to reach out to women outside the church so when i ran into your article it encouraged my heart to move on,it also gave me a wider scope of the vision.i also thank all the women who contributed their experiences it made me to know that iam not alone.

Your article was very informative and I have enjoyed reading the comments thus far. It is very hard to meet all the needs of women. The women of today are so diverse which I think is a great blessing. The only thing that worries me is that we live in a "me" generation, and I am seeing that overflow to women's ministry in women saying comments such as "our ministry doesn't suit my needs, and I don't like crafts so I won't go, or I don't like that paricular music, so I won't go". In the particular women's ministry that I am in, there are only a handful of ladies my age 36-40, and the rest of the ladies are considerably older, and do I love everything that is done in that ministry? No, of course not, but I love the wisdom of the older ladies, their steadfast faith, and their maturity, and their love, and studying God's word. I can listen to my more modern Christian music, play my sports, do my aerobics, another time of the week. Please ladies, don't only think of what "you think" you want to get out of ladies minstry, because you might miss out on something wonderful! We all try our best, and yes we sometimes all need a push to grow and see the culture changing around us and include those who don't fit into the Christian Woman mold, but please don't stereotype or discount those women who have led the way before us.

As I was researching ideas for our womens tea ministry, I stumbled upon your article. Excellent idea by the way. I am a pastor and I would like to say that I appreciate everyones honesty and concerns. During my six years of pastoring I have met and ministered to many different women of all ages. One thing that I have found to be true no matter where they are in their walk with the Lord, they (we) all have one thing in common: we want to be loved and accepted, no matter what. I do my best as a Christian woman and pastor to treat everyone the same and try to make all of the women of our church feel accepted. I have found that for our diverse group of women that they seem to show a great deal of interest in our tea ministry. It is not at all Victorian, it is simply a very relaxed atmosphere, casual dress, with some exciting games that get all of the women talking and laughing. Mixed in the fun, I minister very briefly what the Lord has given me for that event. They take with them great memories infused with a spiritual touch that they can relate to and apply to their everyday life, again, no matter what age they may be. Also, one thing I have learned over the years, is to not be too serious, sometimes as ministers we have such a passion that we think everyone should be just like us and if their not, we don't associate with them... look at the life of Jesus...how did He treat others? Always with acceptance, love and mercy...He was "touched with the feelings of their infirmities" which means He was sensitive to everyones needs and ministered to them right where they were in their life...It was His love for them that led them to want to follow Him. "And these three remain, faith, hope and love...but the greatest of these IS Love"
Pastor Nina
Florida

BEING A WOMAN OF 47, DIVORCING FOR THE 4TH TIME,3 GROWN CHILDREN,4 GRANDS. I CAN TELL YOU THE DEVILS OUT TO DESTROY YOUR FAMILY.
A PASTORS DAUGHTER.TV.PRGRAM, HE WILL COME OUT SWINGING. THE LORD SAYS HE HEARS US EVEN UNTO HIS EAR. DONT THINK I HAVENT YELLED ALOT. GOD DIDINT DO ANY OF MY MISTAKES. HONEY I DID...FIGURING GOD WAS REFINING ME INTO WHAT HE MADE ME FOR..GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR EACH AND EVEY ONE. MAN/WOMEN CAN PULL YOU DOWN WHEN YOU NOT ON YOUR TOES..BUT IT IS CHRIST AND HIM ALONE THAT WILL BE THERE.

God has placed on my heart to revive our women's ministry at our church. We have always had a womens ministry at church and every year it alwasy starts off with a bang but after a little while people just seem to get uninterested. I really want to reach every age woman not focusing on just a certain age group. I do not want this to be just a social gathering. I want women of all ages to know that they are important to our church and we as women need each other to fulfill God's plan for our church. I don't mean that we don't want to get together and have fun, but I feel that we do need to do mission work also. If you have any ideas to keep our Ladies interested, please let me know. We have had some very good leaders in the past but like I said they just don't seem to stay interested or focused. We definitely need some big changes.

I am also feel that God has put this in my heart for quite some time now to start a women ministry to come together with different age group of women at my church, but I know this is not going to be easy. I feel that the spirit is leading me to do this. I also need ideas how to get started.

Nice posts!!! very encouraging..... It urge me to organize our women's group in the church....I am a pastor's wife, it's been my desire to start this ministry in the church but i don't know where to start with..... I appreciate your ideas......please post suggestions or email me @ janekini828@yahoo.com

It's encouraging to read all of the above for the Lord is leading me to start a women ministry embracing particularly the widows, battered wife, single mothers, teen-age moms, single ladies. I started a bible study on small group of moms and I am still praying for wisdom. And also praying for partners who have the same mission and visions like me to reach these women for CHRIST.

Jeth Lamangan
Philippines

I am over the ladies ministry at our church. I need ideas on some fun activities, Games, theme parties, crafts etc. Please help.

God Bless

I use to be a Womens Ministry leader for about 5 years. I loved the Lord with all my hurt and desired to please him. My husband got cancer and fought a 2 year battle with cancer. I quit so I could take care of him. He passed away at age 44 years. We were married for 26 wonderfull years. I also lost 4 other family members within the two years. I became so lonely and felt no one understood. I started dating and made many mistakes that left me confused and even more alone. I failed God. I prayed God would forgive me and send me help. I don't think the church knows how to minister to the lonely.
I feel women need each other. I am seeking Gods plan for me to help the lonely in our community and womens group. I am going to start by just sending uplifting cards to single women and maybe a news letter with encouraging words. I am trying to make a new start for my life and am hoping I can touch another. I would appreciate your prayers and ideas.

Wow!
Many of the posts are exactly where I am. Great insight and useful info.
Keep posting the good stuff!

As all of us can summarize a little with what the majority of the women are saying, "we need one another", "we search for fellowship" and "we search for meaningful meetings" not religious ones.

One of the things that has been effective in our ministry (have pastored for 27 years, alongside my husband) is what we call "Women's Coffee Talk". We meet once a month and we invite any woman who wishes to come from the community. In most cases, the majority of the women are "unchurched" or women who have a home church that does not provide such a ministry. Basically what we do is we serve coffee and pastry, we play games, give out door prizes and we conclude with a short presentation about a topic that deals with women's issues.Topics that deal from parenting, spouses' relationships to health, education, etc. We have a great time and we learn something that we can apply to our every day life, because afther all that's what being a believer is all about - Applying God's truth in our daily living as mothers, wives, neighbors, etc. It is also a witnessing too, because unchurched women may not want to come to a Sunday service or weekly Bible study, but they will come to a fellowship.

I am so thrilled that the Lord brought me to your site! Our church is starting a new womens ministry and your article helped tremendously!!! The blogs also were wonderful bit of information to bring into the prayers. Thank you!!

I am so blessed to of found this website. God has placed upon my heart to start a young women ministry at my church. I am struggling with getting it all together so it can be presented to the executive board. If anyone has any ideas at all for fundraisers and cheap events that i could use, i would greatly appreciate any advise. The targeted age group is about 18 to 35 for all women, married or single.
Thank you!

I am a Nepali and a graduate from a bible college and seeking to do the ministry Of God would you help me? i am seeking some sponsors for the Ministry.If you are interested with me you can contact me.May God bless tou.

I host a women ministry at my church and have been a pastor alongside my husband for the last 10 years. I would like to say I have enjoyed reading the post/comments. I was looking for some fresh ideals when I came across this site. I wanted to share a list of topics we have discussed during our women’s meeting.

We would meet at a 7:00 -8:00 pm @ Starbucks, or a small café open with pray have coffee do a introduction and then discuss one of the topic in a very relative manner. For example, I wrote a book title “Its Your Life Take Authority” I would start by asking the question in what areas in your life have you allowed situations and problems to have authority over your life. What about the struggles of loneliness or issues with your marriage or even with your children or finances. We learn how to NOT allow the problems we face take us away from God but instead we take authority over them. Taking authority is about handling everyday issues God’s way

We learn how to develop a relationship with God that is lasting without allowing the situations we face bring us to a backsliding state. I believe many women today that are in my church want to feel love and accepted. They want to belong not just to God but also to something that says I can relate to that. Therefore the key to a successful women’s ministry is to keep it relevant allow each women to contribute to the growth and success of the ministry because truly it is for the WOMEN.For example, allow them to pick the venue, or suggest they rotate the hosting of the women ministry at their home or have a different person bring the treats at each meeting. Just a few ideals pray they help. Pastor Hood

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Your comments are what I need, continue God's work, in touching lives in parts of the world like you have no idea.

Wooow.....this is great!!!!

I so blessed, I have learned so many things just by reading all your comments. From today, nothing is going to stop me from doing what God has called me to do. This is the answer I've been waiting for. Thank you all.

Be blessed.
Mpho, South Africa

This is great! All the comments have been helpful. I am a pastor's wife for 1 1/2years and I believe every church should have a Women's Ministry. It is so needed!There really are women from all walks of life that need ministering to. I am soaking up all of these words of wisdom. I plan to have 1st meeting in May. I do have a question. Should singles and married be ministered to separately on certain topics related to them or should all come together?
In His Hands...Jackie

I am a pastor in the Salvation Army with my husband and of course Women's Ministries falls to me...well at 29, I don't always like what the mostly 65+ ladies like at our church but I tried to have a once a month event that might appeal to some of the younger ladies in our community and "outside circle" if you will. I had some different nights, scrapbooking, movie nights, baking, prayer stations, baking night where we learned how to make simple recipes that looked exquisite! But the one that was the most exciting to me was when I tried to incorporate sports night - see with an average age of 70, sports wasn't high on their priority list...but I really wanted to have one...so I had a night during March Break when the kids were invited too and we played Wii Sports! It was so great! We played Wii Bowling mostly but Tennis, baseball, and boxing went over well too! It was a sport that it didn't matter how old you were...it was low impact - and everyone had fun! Just a thought for you!

I want to have the best tea party I can have that is spiritual and fun.I have little money, so I need to do this cheap as possible.

In the Phoenix, Arizona area we have an organization called LIFT -- Leaders in Fellowship Together, www.liftaz.org Almost 100 leaders in women's ministry meet monthly to network, share ideas, speaker referrals, what's happening at their church, what works, what doesn't so well, transitions, generational differences, training, etc. We benefit from other's experiences. We invite each other to our churches events. We share resources, including video Bible studies. I've also found great help at www.lifeway.com for books and ideas, including downloadable training sessions. www.group.com has good books, too, full of ideas for meetings. Mostly I feel a leader should pray and depend on the Holy Spirit for His direction for her specific group of women. Sometimes He uses others, though, to spark a thought. I had a series of 25 "Tea for Ten" meetings in my home in one year when I began our WM. Groups were small enough to get to know each other, and I could quiz ladies on what they wanted, get insight into what their spiritual gifts might be so I could call on them later for help.

I am blessed when I read your article especially when I read all the story of all the women doing their ministry it keeps my spirit alive because God has placed upon my heart to start a young women ministry my church.And to God be the glory your website keeps me encouraged in getting some ideas in ministering women. GOD BLESS YOU ALL!


Arlene P. Maceda
Victory Christian Church Parklane
Dasmarinas Cavite
Philippines

New to Austin myhusband and I are worship leaders and pastors.In California I had many womens ministries,my heart is very passionate for recovering women of drugs and alcohol, depression etc.I would like to meet and have meetings with like minded people with this passion.And get the word out about these meetings.I want to see the captives set free!I was once a hopeless alcoholic,God sent me people to lead me to Jesus,my heart is to find these still hurting ones.

Hi, I am not a pastor's wife, but I feel that I am being called for a ministry, I am struggling with things that are going on in my church, and I have noticed that the Spirit is dwindling. We had a rejuvenation on last week becasue of our Men's Day, and my heart was just full becasue of the unity and excitement of the men. I have had this vision for my church, but I don't quite know how to bring it to pass. Reading these comments have really given me some insight on how to proceed.

Wonderful to see this post has been running for 3 years! I have enjoyed reading all the posts.

I have been on our Women's ministry team for over 3 years and for a better part of 2 years have felt the pressure from those older than me to "do things the way it's always been done". I have struggled in my spirit about this way of thinking and know that God designed this women to be an "out side of the box" thinker. With much resistance and even caddy conduct from my fellow women's group. I had wrestled with the thought of just stepping down because the pressure of being part of this group and seeing the personalities of some of these ladies made me deeply saddened. With tons and tons of pray, journaling and guidance from friends, I pressed on and held on tight to the confidence that I know Christ is the one driving this vessel. All my efforts are not in vein and I will not give in to the power that ultimately was trying to drive me away. I know now that before all planning, preparing and discussing happens, I take it to God and allow him to weed out all that I do for the ladies at our church.

Last summer that I heard someone say, "if all our efforts, resources and events do is reach the heart of one person, then we have done exactly what God has placed us here to do". Our pastor every once in a while will remind us that Church is not about the 3 B's (bodies, buildings and bucks). It's not the numbers that we should be seeking out but rather that lives that will be touched as a result of our obedience to Him. God's love for all mankind is obvious. He desires the heart to be changed. For each and every person regardless of their past to know a freedom like no other through Christ. Gods blessed our bible study group which has tripled in size in the past 2 years. However, our outreach ministry is desperately lacking. God placed it on my heart to provide an entryway where all ladies, young, old, mothers, childless, believers, unbelievers and all the other people who are out there among us desperate and lonely for solid, genuine connections with other women. Not a place to be preached at and scared into salvation either. A safe and un-intimidating venue. In this effort to seek an entryway ministry that would be fun, creative and open to all walks of life, I have taken on the events ministry (minus a team backing me up). I have called on my friends to help support this movement and in two weeks will be throwing our very first Get Connected event. Two hours of fun, prizes, funny skit and song. Along with opportunity to meet new friends and say hello to old ones. If would, please be praying for this event that is on August 31st, 2010 6:30-8:30. I can't wait to see what God has in store for us.

I was so encouraged to kick off this event after reading a book I recently purchased by Diana Davis called Fresh Ideas for Women's Ministry. It was a real shot in the dark as I had not read anything about the author or the main focus of her book. It was the title that intrigued me. I have read the book and all I can say is WOW, Thank you Lord for the wisdom and insight this author has brought together. As I read her book I found myself saying, "yes, me too, I know that feeling, great idea" and then even started to wonder whether this lady was a member of my own church. LOL If you are currently on a leadership team, looking to start one up or even just wanting to think about a future goal for the ladies of your church, I recommend this book to you!

Many blessings to all the ladies out there who stand firm in the midst of chaos and with a heart to serve. God see's your obedience and will bless you beyond measure.

Many Blessings,
Jenna

Here is a scripture that has inspired me in my journey.

Psalm 37:23-24
If the LORD delights in a man's way,
he makes his steps firm;
though he stumble, he will not fall,
for the LORD upholds him with his hand.

Hi,there,
Greatly inspired by all da comments. Yes we r all looking 4 fresh new ideas.God is good & helps us,carries us & gives us inspiration from sites like these. Yes sum tyms we can get despondent when things r not looking gud wid da ladies & we try 2 please everyone & hurt our selves, But U know what it is @ tyms like these that we need 2 take tym to lean on Jesus 4 ourselves. Draw strengh,peace, joy & fulfillment frm Him.

Our women's ministry is in da process of growing, we had many really gud tyms this year. We have had a barbeque on a friday night, a beach trip, a stay over at the church,a woman's day celebration, A social saturday,a spring family day celebrtaion,lots of outdoor activities,jumping castle, slippery slide, & looking 4ward to a ladies retreat. All this is done once a month, with ladies of different ages, and all daughters are always included. Young children are nevr a problem.A tym of worship,short exortation, games, lots of fun & laughter & Food always helps keep da spirits high.

We still hve a reg. ladies intecessory meeting once a week. This is also growing.We spend a lot of tym in worship & vibrant prayer. We've seen God do a turn around in lives & situations. A lot of prayer 4 da ministry,flyers, monthly newsletters, mailed personal invites,& gud old fashioned hugs & encouragement as seen our fellowship grow frm about 30 to 130 (at da last meeting), in 9 mnths.Praise be to God. Trust Him. He will never let U down.

My attention was drawn to "get-togethers that don't require mothers to leave their children behind." I love my kids; I chose to work at home to be with them. But personally, I can't imagine how much adult discussion can actually be made in a get-together where a few women's children are brought together while their mothers try to meet. On the other hand, without childcare services, I can't get out of the house at all if I had to leave my children behind. It's a sad state of being between a rock and a hard place. I just wish there were other options.

I have been in Ministry for 7 years as a Women's Ministry Assistant. Our former Women's Ministry Leader moved and for the last 2 1/2 years our Senior Pastor's wife has taken over. Our only interaction is a once a week meeting where I am asked "What do we need to talk about?" At first I was happy to assist her and offer any guidance I could. But now 2 1/2 years later nothing has changed. I am still asked the same question. I basically do her job and then have to run with what I have offered. (I work full time and she only comes in when an event or Bible Study are about to start.) A great deal of research for Bible Studies, retreat sites as well as being available for counseling, writing letters, bulletin and newsletter articles where I place her name at the bottom as if she had written it all on top of doing my actual job. I am it, with no committee or other women around me. We have a large Church of over 2500 people. The women of our church deserve so much more. I am so confused at what God is doing with our ministry. My mind and body are numb and my faith is so very weary. There is no one to talk to, because her husband is the Senior Pastor. I would love your prayers and comments. I pray that God would ignite a flame under her bottom or move her along. Sorry ladies to be so blunt, but our Lord and Savior is coming and we have a lot of work to do!!!

Thanks alot Amie. Going through your article is really helping me know how to embark on the women's ministry that's been on my heart for sometime now. Thanks for being a blessing. God bless.

Thanks for the many comments i have learn a lot by reading all of the different experiences, i have a desire to see our women's ministry grown and with God's help and using some of the ideas in the comments i know that it can and will happen. Thanks for be a blessing.

I am just wondering if any of you have any idias to help me out. I am a young single mom my ex is still a recovering addict from drugs, alcohol and other things. I see so many women my age who are struggling with similuar things in their lifes, so many broken homes and marriages and so many addictions. I want to do a womens day ive really felt it on my heart from God to do something and I love hosting things. I have never done it before and I have never publically speaked but am following Gods direction. I know tha tI want to the theme on love * unless GOd changes that* and I am hoping to empower these women that we are all there for eachother and that no matter who we may love, a neigbour, child,parent,spouce GOds love is always there for us and is the strongest love of all. any idias please let me know. thank you

I came across your article as I was browsing the internet to get any information regarding a ministry the Lord has put on my heart. I have ignored it for a while but unfortunately the call does not go away. I was therefore thrilled and encouraged after reading your article because what you have said is exactly what my ministry is geared towards.

My husband and I are pastoring a really small church!! We have around 20 members coming faithfully!! I really would like to start something for our ladies!! I need suggestions for this and we are on a tight budget!! Please help!!
April

1. Pray for the financial need of the mission that the Lord may
provide all the needs and necessities for the extension of His
Kingdom.
2. Pray for the staffs, missionaries and evangelist that the Lord may
bring them from Nepal, India, and from all over the world.
3. Pray for the Nepalese intellectuals that the Lord may prepare their
hearts and minds to hear the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
4. Pray for the material need of the mission like Building, Land,
Furniture, Books, Vehicles (Cars, Motorbikes, and Bicycles) Kitchen
materials utensils, and vessels for the staffs, evangelist,
missionaries and guest to operate the ministry in smooth manner.
5. Pray for the proposed mission THE BIBLE University that it may
touch the hearts and minds of the high class people for Jesus Christ
the Lord.
5. Pray for Nepal that the Lord may change our land to be the center
for World Christian Mission.
6. Give thanks to the Lord who has done a miracle that only one Hindu
Nation has been turned into a secular country.
7 Pray that the Lord may bring WORLD CHRISTIAN MISSION to Nepal.
8. Pray that the Lord’s spirit may move to the entire world from Nepal.
9. Pray for us that we may declare Jesus Christ as the prince of peace
in the land of angel of peace.
(8.) Pray for us that we may show God as care taker for the people of
all over the world.
(9.) Pray for the volunteer Pastors, Bible Teachers, Evangelists,
Missionaries and Theologians that the Lord may bring in our country
Nepal to serve the master and savior Jesus Christ.
(10.) Pray for the proposed executive committee and advisor of THE
BIBLE University that they may be useful for extension of the Kingdom
of God.
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I am the Director of our women's ministry at my church. I'm a bit discouraged because it appears the ministry is dying. It doesn't seemed to be valued as other ministries in the church. For example, we are a very active church. We reach out to the community and bless people all the time. However, the women's ministry is usually the first to get cut from the calendar which makes me question the value of the ministry. We have an annual women's conference where we go away for one night and we are sooo blessed by it. We get a speaker, we have activities... This year our numbers were down and it has been decided we won't go away for 2012, we will have the conference at home. Now that the only major event of the year has been taken away, I feel like we really don't have a viable ministry at all. I have been considering stepping down if that's what it takes to revive the ministry and the women are blessed. I don't want to, but don't know what else to do. I've suggested a bible study, it doesn't happen, a weekly workout session, obstacles to get over. I don't think we are taken seriously. I think the perception is that all we do is do fun events and nothing that ministers to the heart of the women. Please help!

Well its 4 years later and the Lord is asking me to counsel and go into the woman's ministry. What advice would you give in 2011?

What about a face book page to answer questions ladies in your church might have? Several women in your church could volunteer answers. I am going to try to get that going. That is where young women are today!!! Older ones, too.

I'm in a women's ministry in my church and the meetings don't really offer any thing but read freom a book and discusssion. this is really different from other mission aux i've been in and the activitiews are run by one or 2 people and evey one else just have to good alone. to me and otheres it is time for a change, time to reach others especially the younger women and be more than a aux that gathers once a month. hope others have a better ministry and fine one that won't let you lose hope in the Mission of womens.

I could not agree more. I struggle with feeling like I really do not fit in at all with my church's women's ministry. These groups are full of married stay at home women with children, who think a women's ministry should meet at 10 a.m. weekdays. And me? I have no kids, work full time and am divorced. The time of the meetings automatically rules me out. And the fact that I have no kids to talk about in socializing also makes me an outcast. I have no husband waiting for me at home. I just don't fit in. I run into the same problem with home groups...all young married couples with kids or older ones with grandkids. Any social interaction breaks down to smiles and then them moving on to talk to other mothers about taking the kids to camp or what not. I'm left out. I just have nothing in common with any of them. I think the church does a real disservice to not have ministry groups that are geared toward the single women, older as well as younger and the divorced, unmarried women and childless women. We lead lives that have their own set of issues that are different from the stereotypical Christian woman that's married, at home with kids. Where do women like me fit? I guess I'm just really frustrated.

Thanks for the insight and thoughts.
I have been responsible for building community at a university and I don't think it's that different than building community for women in the church.
1. Advertise a planning meeting for all women.
2. At the planning meeting have large paper on the wall and many markers (make sure they don't mark the wall)
3. On the top of the paper write: Women's ministry would be perfect if... and let others finish the sentence (have as many papers so that people can get their opinions down)
4. on top of another paper or two write: Frequency of meetings
5. Tell women there is no wrong answer- to write down their opinions
6. Take everything written on the 'perfect' page and take out themes (outreach, community, whatever they might be)
7. Summarize these themes under different headings.
8. Have another meeting and report back, then Ask for some volunteers to help.
9. Set some goals, (measurable) and start small
10. Set up a calendar of implementation.
11. Get women to volunteer to help with various areas
12. PRAY PRAY PRAY
Blessings as you create community and a safe place for various personalities!!!

I feel motivated. I had lost hope as a single mother but now I can see some light from a distance and I see life from it. Thanks for this motivating article. Wish to read more of this.

I am a woman's fellowship leader who feels that, although we had some bless retreats, for the most part of it I think I've fail. I can't get the some of the older women interested in the fellowship, and most of the younger women are not excited to come. Although some says I am doing a good job, and Yahweh is really using me for this time,it is so discourageing. I am so glad that I found women with similar concerns. I like the Idea of putting up papers that says the ministry would be perfect if. I went through so much as a woman, and as Noah's ark I came out on top of the mountain. I can help alot of hurting women, in the assembly. It is after four in the morning and I am searching for answers. Help me pray for the ministry.

In support of Women's Ministry in the church, I often think of Jephthah's daughter in the book of Judges. When faced with the cnsequences of her Father's fool hardy bargain iwth God, she asked for an opportunity to go into the mountains with the women for two months. I say, there are times in our lives, " When Only a Sister Will Do." I just imagine the power of that prayer meeting, but his daughter came back with the strength to face her challenge.

Women need the friendship, fellowship, nurture, prayer of other women. There are just times in you life where " Only a Sister Will Do." We can relate to situations and circumstances. We can draw strength from the women in scripture and learn that God has always found the feminie power, useful in accomplisheing His plan for mankind. God himself recgonized, there are times when only a sister will do, hence Deborah, Ester, Jael, Daughters or Zelophedad and others who brought victory to the people of God.

Rich, poor; educated, uneducated; married, single, our commanality is our womanhood, and we all have something to offer each other.

I am the women's ministry co ordinator at my church. Something we did at the start of our church (about 11 years ago) was to divide the women in to 4 groups and have a team leader for each group. The team leaders and myself would get together regularly and plan upcoming events. I would then ask the the team whose turn it was to put the event together with their team. We have had a Mother's Day dinner, with the men doing the cooking and serving and cleaning, followed by a program, changes each year, last year was a fashion show, with our own girls being the models. We are having a 1 day retreat next month, and the team will do all the work for it. When new people come to the church we ask them if they would like to help on a team. It is only 1 or 2 events a year that a team would host. We try to keep any event seeker friendly.
I hope this might help someone looking how to start a women's ministry.

My husband and I recently started attending a very small church.  We have around 30 members coming faithfully!! I really would like to start something for our ladies!! God has put the younger ladies on my heart. I've started by inviting each one, individually, out to get to know them. I need suggestions for this and the church is on a tight budget!! The families are also struggling financially. I know God has blessed my husband and me. Our children are grown, NOW there are young couples we can reach,  just not sure how. Please help!!

i love this page. God bless u.

I am the event coordinator of our Women's Ministry in Florida.
We have well over 3,000 members in our church. We have leaders on our leadership team such as: Coordinator, Co-Coordinator, secretary (2) event coord/co-coord., (2)treasure, (2)Chaplains, (2) Hospitality coord./co-coord and a book study facilitator. We pray, pray and pray!!! Here are a few of our ideas.

1. Meet and Greet after Sunday service:serve cupcakes and punch have all coordinator give a brief description of their roles in the ministry, open the floor for ministry suggestions have the secretary taking notes.
2. Pass out a color brochure of your leadership team.
3. Mother' Day Luncheon
4. The Goldy Women and Her Many Hats (luncheon theme, every one wears a hat)
5. Bake Off
6. PMS Night out (Popcorn, Movie and Sodas) show a chick flick.
7. Prayer Breakfast have your pastor be your keynote speaker.
8. Community Service project: clean humane society, pet shelter, homeless shelters, battered women's shelters.
9. Volunteer in the church nursery once a month.
10. Bible study of learning the Women of the Bible,
11. Dinner and a Movie
12. Christmas Fellowship
13. Secret Sisters
14. Spring Retreat
15. Women's Conference (get a dynamite speaker who speaks for free)
16. Prepare thanksgiving baskets for a needy family or two.
17. Prayer Partners
18. Pray, Pray, Pray God will bless your ministry. TRUST ME if your trust him he will deliver!!!!!
19. Lunch and Learn ask your pastor or assoc. pastor to speak on your theme. (Finances, Marriage, Faith in God)
20. Tea Party
21. Lemon Ade Party w/ 2 or 3 icebreakers before the game.

Hi,

I am considering leading the women's ministry at church, I have enjoyed all the input from this site, but haven't seen any recent post, so if there is new input from successes I would really enjoy hearing from everyone.

Raeleen

It is 2013...and this problem STILL exists in the church. I agree that until women are courageous enough to step forward to not just "step outside of the box," but CUT the box...this problem will continue. Unfortunately, the church has lost and continues to lose a whole generation because of an unwillingness to let go of religion and tradition. Other people like me, who have been raised in church and grew up "ministering" as adults, have seen ALOT of hypocrisy, self righteousness, control, manipulation and personal issues of leaders. Honestly...what we desire is someone to step forward and teach what is RELEVANT to life. We are a generation who can see someone fake a mile away. We don't want perfection or religion, just authenticity. We want God!!!!!!!!!!!!

As stated previously, I was raised in a VERY strict, Pentecostal household. I've always been the child who questioned my leaders reasons behind the "do this" and "do that." Not out of disrespect...but because I wanted to know the benefit to me behind an instruction to do something. I am still that way to this day. I have stepped out and decided to be obedient to God and reach those people I have been called to reach. I understand I have a calling...and it is NOT in the church. My desire is to get people to understand that a church building is NOT the only place to commune and have a relationship with God. Yes...it is possible to have a relationship outside of the church. My mission is to truly minister to the hurt of women who, for various reasons, will never again step foot in an organized church building. Whether hurt, drugged addicted, homosexual...it's not my job to judge them. My job is to show them the love of God...and help them realize that they too, must still fulfill God's purpose for their life. Women's ministry, in a nutshell, is not just about doing programs, seminars, etc. to reach others externally...but doing the hard work INTERNALLY first. My opinion, this is why many ministries fail - more external work than internal.

I had soooo much going on in my head that I rambled a bit. My apologies. I hope you are able to comprehend my thoughts. Wishing you all the best that God has to offer.

Every one has such great ideas. Ideally when you have your first women's ministry it should be about asking each women what activities they would like to do and what themes they would like to concentrate on.

One way for example is have the women right down a list of activities and themes and encourage each person in the group to organise the session. (with assistance from the group leader)

For example: I like indoor rock climbing. The theme could be "trust" You team people up with other women they don't know as well for the rock climbing session. Afterwards you debrief on what it is like to trust someone you don't know that well and how trust can transform your relationships. Have people tell personal stories about their issues with trust and then relate it back to the bible...

At the end of the year, everyone has planned and organised an activity to do.It is important to have assistance from the group leader. But the group leader is their to assist them not overtake the session or say no to what their doing. (as long as it is not hurting anyone)

Just an idea.

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